Girls vs Videogames

I'm sure anyone with a girlfriend or wife has heard it before. You know the old saying "you spend more time playing games than with me, you have work tomorrow and your playing SC at 2:30 in the morning WTF, are you done yet etc etc etc". I'm married and I hear this all the time but she'll sit there and watch HGTV for hours on in coming up with all kinds of shit I should be doing instead of playing SC. If I'm watching tv for a couple hours there's nothing ever said but as soon as I power up the ole Xbox it's on like Donkey Kong lol. Makes no sense!

Anyways anybody else catch shit for playing games? Is your better half cool with your gaming? How do you make them understand that HGTV isn't as cool as GS B, GS B, GS k BE, w! 4kk, 3b, 1a tech trap GS K BE repeat process lol. Thoughts

well, "you spend more time playing games than with me". there you have it. sounds like she has a valid point to me.
sure there is time for video games, but do you make room for quality time with your wife?
i´m talking about spending time together, conversing, going out, cooking together, doing shit. not just sit in front of the tv together.
i think she might see it as you two are doing something together if you and her are watching tv, but when you play video games, you do that by yourself, or with your "stupid online friends" or whatever :)

have a talk about it, see why she´s not feeling appreciated, i´m sure you can find some middle ground if you just locate the core issue, because there´s stuff deeper that just "you play too much video games".
hope it helps.

all women should be in the kitchen.

Deep down I really don't think she cares but makes an issue of it just too have something too bitch about lol. It's just what women do.

My boyfriend is a bigger gamer than me. He always has his friends over playing some fighting game. He also has no qualms with giving them the boot when I want to spend quality time with him so that's probably why I don't mind him gaming into the late hours of the night on weekends. He is absolutely cool with my gaming too.

My GF used to play oblivion with me (we take turns playing), then we played Skyrim together. Let me just say this is a bad idea, basically because she had radically different ideas about where to put perk points etc. Not to mention, she flat out sucked at it. She would never save it, get me killed because she would run into a mob guns blazing, never sneak in caves, you know, stupid shit. If I tried to give her a little advice, like "baby, remember that you're not sneaking", the response was "oh shut up let me play the game my way".

TBH I think the only reason she ever wanted to play in the first place was because of the beautiful graphics and scenery. Her favorite thing to do in elder scrolls games was to run around and pick flowers and shit.

Finally, when I got fed up and said "if you want to play it your way, make your own character", her response was "but I only want to play this game with YOU!". Eventually she gave up and stopped playing altogether and now I can build my characters my way. Victory for me!

You know what she plays ALL DAY LONG? Castleville, Gnometown, farmville, you know, the stupid silly FB games! She gets insulted when I say she's not a real gamer, but it's true.

this thread is quickly become awesome! more stories please

Yes my wife plays the Facebook games as well. I just can't get into those games.

lol Farmville. True gamers play Harvest Moon.

Boy have i had this argument before. Coming home from work to play some calibur used to be normal thing for me. Id be gone from 6am and get home bout 6pm and would almost beeline straight to my xbox. And at first she would say nothing, but as time went on, my wife started to voice her opinion more and more.

I would get that typical phrase "you spend more time on that fuckin xbox the. You spend with me." among others. I to thought she was just looking to bitch about something. And my argument was "i work my ass of all day and i wanna come home and vent some frustration on some poor fat kids online."

Till one day we got into a bigger fight about it. It escalated into a pretty big deal. So i sat back and thought about the bigger picture. I realized that i was neglecting her. To make it worse, i was neglecting my kids. My kids are both devoted gamers also. Even my little daughter has become quit the gaming freak. As to where my wife was not. So in my wifes eyes, it was non stop video games 24/7!

So i thought that there was better things to do with my spare time. And my wife and i came up with an agreement on how much time i could devote to my gaming. At first she threw out something like a half hour a week! I was like "oh hell no. I need more than that." so we came up with an argreeable time frame that worked out.

Part of my argument was to get her to play with me. And she agreed. her SC experience i ruined when i tried to teach her to play it one day. I ended up just relentlessly kicking her ass and not really letting her learn. So SC was out! So i chose games that the whole family could play. The lego games were a huge hit! So now we are a devoted lego gaming family. Not to mention the "family game night" games and even CoD games. The wife is hooked on black ops and she loves to play combat training with me. Its hilarious now cause after the rounds are over, she has almost as many kills as i do. Shes actually quite good. So now at times we have late night sessions of CoD games that her and i play together. As for my personal gaming by myself. Well i have cut that down quite a bit. Aside from the fact the SC is the ONLY fighter i play and most other games out just dont interest me at all. My personal gamin time is cut to maybe 1 hour per week. Maybe if scv was better that would be different. But as of now. Im all right with it. Id rather go goof off with my kids somewhere than be on my playstation all day.

So i stepped back and looked at the bigger picture again. I realized that i was not giving her enough attention. And that her gripes (all though prolly not expressed in a way that was a positive one) had a legitament point. Im gone 12 hours a day, she wants to be with me but i would come home, kiss my wife and get straight onto some maxi carnage. Cause i was gonna be the best maxi player in the world. How horribly wrong that was. So she felt ignored. Wich is not good in a relationship.

My wife isnt one to bitch about things unless she really feels strongly bout something. Shes a pretty easy going girl. Most men would kill for a wife like mine. But every woman has a breaking point.

You need to realize that a relationship is about two people. Sacrafices need to be made in almost everything, not just gaming. You need to sit her down and find out what would make her happy. Her first reaction will prolly be something loke "getting rid of that fuckin xbox is what will make me happy." but thats not a compromise either. You wanna game, she wants time alone together with you. You need to find a happy medium that will be mutually happy for both of you. Yes you will prolly need to cut down the games. Take her out to dinner and a movies once a week. Or just devoted 2 or 3 days out of the week for just you and her. Just doing something together. A nice dinner out or a relaxing old movie at home on netflix. Give her the time and dedication she deserves. Yall are married for fucks sake. You have to celebrate that together in small ways from time to time.

So to sum up things....

YES, you prolly spend to much time gaming and not enough time with your old lady.

YES, you need to find a common ground that will both satisfy her needs as well as yours. Rather that be trying to get her to game with you on a game that SHE likes (i know most girls pick lame games to play, but hey, you could be playing nothing at all). or find some hobby that both of you enjoy. My wife and love to watch Gordon Ramsey shows then try to replicate what he makes. Usually turns out like shit but we have a great time doing it.

Being married is all about finding a common ground. In everything. Both of you need to be happy and shouldnt have to TOTALLY sacrafice something you enjoy. Shit some people like to read books, some like to draw, some collect stamps (fuckin nerds), and geeks like us like to game. Get her interested in your games. Then get interested in something she likes, like twighlight books or male strippers or shopping for make up. LOL, you get the idea.

lol?

I meant 3b then 1a GSK BE is tech trap into w! Again

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I hope you're not trying to do that with SCV. We SC players are all wicked buff.

HRD was half correct but the op did say your other half so yeah...

I had a girlfriend who was a pain in the ass. She hated me playing games while I was on the phone with her. The most annoying part was when she came over to visit I wasn't allowed to say anything to her when she played MY Guitar Hero game. That was a top shelf bitch right there. We couldn't play Co-op either because she complained about the highway being too small yet she wanted to take her glasses off so she could bob her head really hard. Damn...I really don't miss her lol.

I voted "She plays video games", because, well... I play games. Does that count? (And would it continue to count if I said I wanted to burn a few of the comments in this thread?)

I think HRD pretty much summed it up, and given that I'm solidly single, I'm not sure I could really offer much further advice... or how valid it would really be. I guess, simply put, is that if your family, significant other, or whomever else you might share your life with has something to say, listen. Note, that doesn't mean you have to concede on all points, doing exactly as he or she says at all times - far from it. Just listen, recognize their concerns, and offer solutions or compromises. Their reasons might seem silly or baseless to you at first, but don't dismiss them; after all, wouldn't you want them to do the same to you?

On that note, I'd advise against using his or her interests as a counter point. "Sure, I play a lot of games, but all you do is sit and dumb watch shows / play those stupid casual games that can't even to be considered real games / etc" may sound like a reasonable come-back when someone is telling you to spend less time doing something you enjoy, but isn't it exactly that sort of reaction that lead you to the argument in the first place? Instead, try to find out why he or she enjoys those things, and share why you enjoy yours. You might just be surprised to hear some answers pretty similar to your own - which can, in turn, lead to a whole new range of activities you can do together, and perhaps an better understanding of the people you love.

I made some compromises awhile back and it seems too be working for both of us. I was just curios if others had been or going thru the same.