Ask a Virgin: Relationship Advice from Internet People

If by club you mean on campus, grocery stores, parties, park, convience stores, theater, and lectures then yea, I only pick up the girls from the club. I'm sorry, but callin' me an idiot for my opinion makes you an idiot. I can't help but feel the way I feel by seeing the things I see with my own eyes.
Stop picking up girls at campus, grocery stores, parties, park, convience stores, theater, and lectures in the projects then...

and the 1950's would be more accurate to fortified male/female western gender role stereotypes of abuse and acceptance...opposite to what he described and more to what you describe
 
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ok, let me spell this out so that even a 5 year old can understand; quiet, nerdy girls in libraries are no different than bar hussies. they all wanna get choked, slapped, flipped around and told what to do. it is in their blood. additionally, they all want this

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so that they can take your money and a piece of your soul. the reality of the situation is that in the end they all turn into this

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with these

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and these

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so, unless you have an armed penis capable of mounting a defense, like this

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or this

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to fight back against them, you better get used to the possibility of ending up like this

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or, even worse, this

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my suggestion? learn to love this

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this

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and this

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so that you don't have to worry about it anymore.

my other suggestion? never ever ever ever ever ever ever do a google image search for "penis injury".

*pukes*
 
@Dani i don't think that it's a matter of saying guys are easy... I know how i am though when it comes to women i think about sex 90% of the day doesn't matter if i'm at work chilling at the crib or playing the game sex is on my mind a lot. YSL lol that shit is in demand.
Guys are easy, guys like sex cause it's fun for them and they don't need ties I guess. But women usually need an emotional bal-ance I guess, I dont care though. YSL is always on demand, so is diesel.
 
Man, I'm Puerto Rican, from the Island and I wouldn't mess with no Rican woman from the States. These bidges crazy...
 
You know why most of you think you can't be a nice guy and get a girl? You're picking up girls in clubs.

The kind of girl who's looking for a one night stand or who'll advertise herself in front of a bar fishing for drinks is not looking for a nice guy.

Notice I say, the kind. As in there are multiple kinds of girl, and many different ways to catch one. You guys sound like idiots. Frankly I find your opinions insulting and degrading to women. My memories are filled with sweet girls who'd swoon when I kissed their hands or who'd take a walk with me and wrap themselves around my arm. And I was always a push-over, but they'd pick me up instead of walking on me. Truth be told. I don't know what else to say.


That's what makes it fun. It doesn't matter how it's done. And IMHO, I find nothing wrong with how you try to hook that chick to be yours.
1950's way, geeks way, jerks way, etc. Isn't the fundamental rule is: are you guys happy with one another? Call me an old-fashioned, but nothing makes me more happy than watching a couple enjoy each other's company. Flaws and all. And now I'm doomed to be the "best" friend but never the boyfriend. Oh well, I usually don't let that get me down by persevering for the right moment for the right chick. Call me optimistic. And man my head hurts slightly from venting nervously lol.
 
i think your head hurts from those last few pictures i posted. don't worry, it is just blood flow. you will come to terms with it, and eventually it will be seamless, i promise.
 
If by club you mean on campus, grocery stores, parties, park, convience stores, theater, and lectures then yea, I only pick up the girls from the club. I'm sorry, but callin' me an idiot for my opinion makes you an idiot. I can't help but feel the way I feel by seeing the things I see with my own eyes.
My apologies man, but I know what I've seen too and this "you gotta be a thug" mentality is bull. Makes me mad to hear it. Flat out. There's a lot of ladies looking for a man to treat them wrong, for sure. But they're idiots. Though it seems we have different styles. I don't "pick up" girls. I try to get to know them first, I actively work on them a bit and play around with them and I only ask them out when I'm pretty sure I'll get a yes. I'm not going to say I haven't run into a few stealth bitches or surprise idiots but I'm usually pretty selective and vet the prospects a while before hand.

The thing about it is....you will RARELY see me at any club, and that's real. I meet and greet women on a daily basis and truthfully, they've all had this same characteristics of bein drawn towards people who treat them like shit. When I'm goin to the cafe on campus and a chick says to a guy, 'you gay nigga' and said guy responds back with 'bitch shut the fuck up I ain't gay' and said chick says 'omg you have never talked to me that way' and she bats her eyes then you got no choice but to believe it! There's so many i've seen.
Yeah see. I have never gone out with a girl who just shouted at me "you gay nigga!". There's something wrong there. I know from the way you talk and the way you seem to hate it that it must be true. It might just be a matter of place but I think classy girls are around. I don't wanna sound racist but there might be less in the projects where thug culture is so pervasive. I'm from the inland empire in southern california, people and attitudes are probably different. But I don't think you, as a nice guy could exist if there weren't nice girls too.

And I'm sorry Ghengis that sounds like somethin' that happened in the 50's, not now-a-days. There's only about 10% at most that even want what you said in that post.
No I'm sorry. For you. Even if it's that 10%, then find that 10%. Just don't be telling me you have to treat a woman bad to hold her interest. I bet you would find it real interesting if some more of the girls from this forum would come in here and tell you their opinions.

The thing about it is I'm a nice guy by heart but majority of my hook-ups came from girls finding me attractive, or when I treated them like I didn't care what happened. Ugh...I almost named another scenerio, let me stop.......
I feel for you man, I really do. But it sounds to me like you're just meeting the wrong girls. Or maybe you're drawn to the types of girls that don't really make you happy. Or shit what do I know. I'm not an expert by any means. Whatever. We've just lived different lives. I wish I could help you, but I wouldn't know how.
 
LoL at IFB thinking the only way most guys get girls is by throwing money and their ego around. WTF are you talking about dude? I can pull a hottie just by making her laugh, shit a stray look and most are mine. You even made yourself sound pathetic because all you can get are rebound girls that are sad from having the players play them.

Your doing the same thing the other guys are. They are just better at it than you. I guarantee you, that you have to work 10X's harder than a guy thats a total dick to a girl just to get some or to keep a hot girl with you. Face it, girls like that shit... Whether they admit it or not, they like the assholes, the badboys, the rich ones, and the ones with big ehemm "Egos"

They dont like nice guys, sure maybe for a rebound to make them feel better about themselves, but after a while youll get old, boring, and they will want someone who's wild, crazy, mean to them, and fun again. If your nice all the time they dont really appreciate it, but when a guy thats always been an asshole is nice to them, wow watch them crumble.
Oh for fuck's sake.

1. You don't need to be an asshole to get girls easy.

2. Anyone who says that nice guys finish last are not talking about nice guys (who actually get more girls than the assholes period). They're talking about the clingy, needy pussies.

This idea of nice guys finishing last came from the outdated and damn wrong idea that in order for a man to get a girl, he should be doing EVERYTHING for her. If that's the case, the pussy puts the girl's value ahead of his own. He seeks her approval, not the other way round. This makes her value higher than his.

So why the fuck will any girl stay with a pussy unless it's just to make herself feel better?

Any man who seeks approval from others get nowhere in life, let alone pussy. The amount of approval any man seeks is inversely proportional to the amount of social approval they get. In layman's terms, the less approval you seek from others, the more dominant you look to others. It is the lack of seeking approval from others that attracts women.

And assholes are seen as people who refuse to seek approval from others. It goes against the entire idea of social mobility. There are social rules that must be obeyed, and these people discard them because in their eyes, they don't work.

Ever hear singers and rappers who in their music sing/rap about doing themselves? "I just do me" and other similar shit.

Same principle.

Friedrich Nietzche's idea of the Ubermensch/Superman (before his anti-Semitic sister managed to re-edit Thus Spoke Zarathustra after his death to suit her ideals [and he hated anti-Semitism BTW], which ended up being the foundation of Hitler's Nazism) was the individual who succeeded in finding out what THEIR OWN morals and ethics were and using those morals and ethics in their path of life instead of just obeying what society's morals and ethics were.

SAME PRINCIPLE.

People who don't seek approval from others divide opinions about them. They will probably have as many haters as there are lovers. It is the haters that call them assholes.

People who don't seek approval from others end up rewarding people for doing something they want with their attention and punishing by withdrawing attention. It is in particular THIS that attracts girls, as they get rewarded doing something right in the guy's eyes, thus giving them value in their actions.

No one finds value in what is easily gotten.You don't find value in the air you breathe unless it's taken away from you in some shape or form (poisonous gases, getting strangled, drowning etc.). The pussies give away their power way too easy to the girl they like. Hence the boredom and looking elsewhere shit. If any man wants to get and/or keep a girl, you gotta set the frame that your attention and approval must be EARNED.

"Nice guys finish last" my ass. Plus comme "PUSSYOS finish last".
 
That's what makes it fun. It doesn't matter how it's done. And IMHO, I find nothing wrong with how you try to hook that chick to be yours.
1950's way, geeks way, jerks way, etc. Isn't the fundamental rule is: are you guys happy with one another? Call me an old-fashioned, but nothing makes me more happy than watching a couple enjoy each other's company. Flaws and all. And now I'm doomed to be the "best" friend but never the boyfriend. Oh well, I usually don't let that get me down by persevering for the right moment for the right chick. Call me optimistic. And man my head hurts slightly from venting nervously lol.

I lol'ed. I think you have a beautiful outlook man.

pro tip: they aren't "real" girls.
Talk percentages to me.
 
nope. lying to make relationships work is normal. being an asshole is telling the truth and expecting people to accept it.
If you're lying to make relationships work, then you weren't being honest to yourself or your girl early in the relationship.

What you want in the relationship should've been made to you AND her very clear from the very start. That, and you just let it naturally progress without trying to force it. Otherwise it's gonna end, and probably not very well.
 
If you're lying to make relationships work, then you weren't being honest to yourself or your girl early in the relationship.

What you want in the relationship should've been made to you AND her very clear from the very start. That, and you just let it naturally progress without trying to force it. Otherwise it's gonna end, and probably not very well.

replying to anything in this thread with any degree of sincerity = massive failure.
 
Everyone's lonely; make them believe you're what they're missing from their life or you've got what they want and you're golden.
 
I think it's fully valid, despite the laughability of the OP, to have a sincere discussion on the matter given many individuals actually follow the values some of you are trolling with and some genuinely believe. It's not just a matter of the life style irritating me in it's concept, but it has consequences on other individuals and should be challenged by logical and better educated people. These philosophies exist because there is a media trend to support it and it becomes easy to adopt it as "the way life is" with a group mentality of easily influenced people. Living in Vegas gives me access to an incredibly diverse populous do to tourism, cheap housing market, and etc... It's a city where there is a media's concept of sex advertised constantly admidst respectable establishments and under ground communities that argue it's false representation of sexuality. Exposing myself to numerous scenes and acute lifestyles I've had 1st hand experience interacting with many different sorts of people from the casuals to the extremists and there's simply overwhelming evidence that this theory of sexuality is false and limited to only a few groups or in limited circumstance.

It's a constant nuisance to see the less than desirable lifestyles attributed to the behavior and the limitations it brings to couples and an individuals sexuality. People over generalize and fall into walking stereotypes despite the ridiculed stigma by outsiders. As consequence, many individuals fall victim to accepting this as a normal lifestyle and succumb to accepting it as they have no means of comparison to contest it. Moto's like "nice guys finish last" become effective when people around them begin praising assholish behavior and conquest through sex.

I know it's cute and some of you are trolling (obv), but to those who actually believe that mentality...you don't know what the fuck you're talking about. There is no magical formula for each gender and the exceptions to when it works is not rare. We live in a time where people are embracing individuality and opposing conservative social norms that initially validated these theories as women being subservient.

RAWR! Fuckin McEdumacation! Get one son!
 
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