A person is drowning. They cannot swim. As you walk by you have a few options. You could call for help by which time it could be too late. You could take action yourself perhaps finding a flotation device or if you're a strong swimmer you could jump in after them but if you jump in you risk being drowned too. Or alternatively you could remark on how they ended up drowning and how they probably deserve to die for their own stupidity and trot on.
So why is the most obvious option such a risk? If a person is unable to swim and drowning surely they would be very open to help having no other reasonable option? This presumes reason but when a person is faced with death there is a moment of sheer panic often referred to as their life flashing before their eyes. Overcome with this panic they desperately grasp into the void to hold on to this fleeting thing they know they have yet cannot see to grasp discarding any reason about it. The void becomes their existence in that moment and their own panic merely pulls them further in away from help.
So in the end the most obvious option is often the wrong one. How can one save someone who regresses to such a state? What causes this panic? Fear. The most important aspect in saving a life in every situation is in finding ways to alleviate this fear. Facing fear with courage. Staring it in the face. This isn't just the person drowning who is in this case clearly too overwhelmed to think straight.
The person in a position to do the saving also must face this fear. Fear they may fail. Fear they will be pulled in too. Perhaps there is nothing they can do. But they can still face the fear with encouragement. Most of the time no one is actually drowning. Yet we all are. All the time. Everyone dies. Inevitably. In fact we have no control. This is all we may do. Face fear with encouragement.
It is a lie. It is imaginary. Anything else is paranoia. Madness.
Fear is your enemy. If you were playing a match in Calibur and you could actually control your enemies action in the same way you control your own would that be:
a) Boring
b) Pointless yet strangely 'fair' nonetheless self-defeating
c) Metaphysically vague with a touch of nonsensical gibberish